Sex God

At first I was writing this as a response to Kaci's post on purity. Then I realized I had a bit more to say:

This is a hard one I think. My first thought is: I think that sex and sexuality are meant for marriage and I'm guessing that when they are done in the right context, it will be a spiritual, physcial, emotional connection. (Stuff we all know.) Not just spiritual with your partner, but I believe God too. I think God designed sex to be beautiful and to demonstrate and give us a peek into the intimate relationship He has with Himself and that He wants with us. Think about the connection with the other person you feel when you experience sexual intimacy. Strong? Complete? Safe? Content? Secure? Elated? Maybe we were MEANT to feel this way when we experience sexual intimacy because God created it to show us what He is like; He is a relational God and I see glimpses of Him when I experience wonderful relationships, be it friendships or boyfriends. Like Christ's love for the church is an example for marriage, the intimacy of sex is an example of just how intimate He is with Himself and with us. (I'm refering to the kind of intimacy sex brings, not saying God is sexual with Himself or wants to be sexual with us.)


I believe God designed the marriage bed to be safe for us to explore our sexuality because outside of it He knew how painful it would be to give of ourselves to multiple people. Our heart gets attached to each person, making our heart and body a sort of thrift store item for our future spouse. Used, although it may be gently, it is still used. Not that I am doubting that God can't redeem us (He HAS and WILL!) but His desire is to see us safe, secure and pure. His guidelines are there to protect us-like a Father.

I also think that thinking of purity as a way of protecting your own body and what you know you have to offer someone helps with the purity process. Think of yourself as having something very valuable to offer, something that you know someone will appreciate, but you only want to give it to that ONE special person. When I think of my body in a sense of something precious, I only want to give it away to a certain extent. We protect our hearts like it is something valuable and retract it when we know there is harm coming, or the relationship is not safe - we should view our bodies the same. "Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body." 1 Corinthians 6:18.

Although I do not believe in Rob Bell's theology as a whole and take it with a grain of salt, this book is amazing on the topic of Sex and God and how they relate.

http://www.zondervan.com/Cultures/en-US/Product/ProductDetail.htm?ProdID=com.zondervan.9780310263463&QueryStringSite=Zondervan

Maybe we can stay connected to God during those hard moments of staying pure by remembering that it is a picture of how much He loves us, but when we experience it away from marriage, it is not experienced to the full potential.

Lia